Today, i'm going to do the exact opposite, because right now i am so angry my hands are shaking.

And as usual, this isn't going to make a lick of sense.

In my previous posts, i've questioned about the competition within the lifestyle. I'm convinced, now more than ever, that this is true. Let me explain.

As usual, i was reading some posts on that website i've talked nonstop about. A guy started a thread where he said the highest goal in the lifestyle is the Master/slave relationship. This alone pissed a bunch of people off. Namely, those who don't engage in M/s. Though there was one person who is in an M/s relationship and even she didn't agree with that statement.

This didn't bother me. Actually, his post didn't bother me. I just chalked it up to newness, and an inflated ego.

What bothered me was the overwhelming lack of understanding. True, it might be hard for someone with a Dominant/submissive dynamic to understand a M/s dynamic, and vice versa. But you would THINK that us, of all groups, would be more understanding.

How are we, as a group who are ostrasized in the vanilla world, to a point where not even friends and family know what we like, going to turn around and do the same thing just because someone has a differing view of the lifestyle?

It took me two pages to get to the one post that wasn't about how stupid the guy sounded, or patronizing him. It took me two pages of post bashing to get to that one post that chose to understand the guy instead of bashing him over the head with their opinions.

Though, admitedly, there was one thing that really pissed me off about the OP. He made it out to be a competition between the M/s and D/s dynamics. Like one is better than the other. That is complete crap.

I'm sure there are those out there that believe that their dynamic is better than the other one. But there shouldn't be. It's just that some dynamics are better for different people. No one dynamic is better than the other, and people need to realize that.

Hope you're all having a good day!